Well my story begins with meeting a girl from Moldova in July of 2008. It was July 17th to be exact. I met her at a friends party that night. I was interested in getting to know her the moment I saw her. I found her very attractive, and I knew in my heart and mind that I wanted to persue her, to talk to her, to let her know me. I would see her again on July 27th at the same friend’s house, as we had another party that night, and I talked with her more. We went for a walk on the beach that night and talked. We started to meet and hang out after that, walks on the beach, talks on the bench under the moon. 

She seemed very genuine. And she did not want to take things fast, which made me respect her so much more. I had no desire to rush in to anything. I can remember the first several times we hung out she wouldn't even sit close to me. I would ask her to come closer, and she would say in a cute voice "no, I'm fine where I am". It made me more interested. Maybe she knew how to play me? I don't know....it just seemed like she did everything right. Looking back on it now, I guess she played me just right. 

In early August, we started "dating", and we were an official couple around August 3rd. I soon fell in love with the person being represented to me. She was so sweet, caring, willing to compromise. She was everything I ever wanted. I am a simple man, and never asked much from God lol. This girl was an angel, and brought so much light into my life. It was almost a dream.

I had lied to her about my age when I met her. I was 31, she was 22. I told her I was 27. I was afraid that even though I look very young for my age, that it would play a factor in her decision to pursue a relationship with me. I did come clean when we started dating, and even though she gave me the “cold shoulder” for an hour or so after telling her, she decided it was not a problem. I believed that she truly was interested in me, for me.I guess I was wrong.

We started to spend a lot of time together. I would pick her up from work if it was raining. I liked to do sweet things for her. Sometime during the 1st or 2nd week of August our relationship became sexual. I was actually shocked one night when we returned to her place after a party, and she asked me to come in. Her roommate was not there, and she asked me to stay the night. I remember feeling a bit uncomfortable, and I felt as though I did not want to take it to that level yet. I asked Silvia why she was willing to take it to the next level at that time, and she told me it was "because I made her feel so comfortable". I have to say that I was surprised she had decided to sleep with me that night, because she had been taking things so slow up until that point. However, I did not sleep with Silvia that night. I chose not to, and I believe that decision was made by me because I did truly respect her. I knew in my heart that I actually did like this girl, and I did not want to ruin it by doing what I had done so many times before in the past. I was afraid that if I slept with her, I would wake up in the morning and regret it and then never talk to her again. I did not want to be that person, I did not want to do that to her.The next night though, it happened. It felt right.

At that point, we spent almost every night together. I would meet her after work. I would stay at her place or she would stay at mine. I would drop her off at the motel in the morning for work. It was a great relationship. We started shopping together, doing nice things. She then would meet my mom, and they soon had a very nice relationship. My mother loved Silvia right from the start. I swear, she just liked Silvia from the very beginning. So that was good, to have my mothers approval. They would end up having a special relationship. Life was grande, I was on top of the world. The girl that was in front of me, the girl that held my hand, was sweet to me, the girl that lied next to me at night, she was my savior. She was definitely the sun in my sky. I really don't know what happened to that person. I guess she was just never real.

In September 2008, talk of her staying in the U.S. began. Her departure date was Sept. 25th, and the closer it got, the more upset I became. I did not want to lose the person I thought I knew. I thought I was in love. She began to tell me stories of corruption in her homeland, and that if I didn’t marry her so she could stay in the U.S., I may never see her again, or it may take years before she could return. The uncertainty killed me. And she also began to make promises of ultimate loyalty and fidelity, long-time genuine love, care and companionship, etc etc. You know, all the things I wanted to hear. Well after originally deciding to do the K-1 visa thing, I changed my mind and decided to marry her because she had essentially convinced me with her talk that I may not see her for a very long time, or ever. I did not want to lose the person I thought was real, and yes, I was suspicious that a girl would want to actually get MARRIED after only 2 months of being together. But I guess I didn’t realize yet that I was not the light at the end of the immigration tunnel, the green card was.

I was under severe duress to marry her, and looking back on it I can vividly remember the feelings I had. It was Sept. 25th, we were in her bedroom, most of her suitcases and bags were packed, she was crying a lot, telling me that I needed to marry her NOW or she was going home forever. Seeing her cry made me upset too, and I guess I just didn’t want to let this person go. I thought I knew the “real” her, and I went against everyone’s advice. I was told it was suspicious of her to have supposedly fallen in love so fast with me, I was warned to watch out for her “using me for a green card”, I was told by people she lived with during the Summer of 2008 that “a marriage between you 2 can’t possibly be out real genuine love”. I went against all odds. I did it for the person being acted to me. I did it for a person I thought to be genuine. She really poured it on, the corruption thing, how I would probably never see her again, etc. She even at one point kind of threatened me…saying if I didn’t marry her, “there would be trouble”. She also stated that if I didn’t marry her I would have to pay over $1,000 for her plane ticket. These were pretty odd threats and demands, but I guess “love is blind”, right?

We married on Sept. 26th 2008. We had gone to the Justice of the Peace on the 25th, but there was nobody home. We moved in to our new place on Sept. 28th. We had a roommate, a friend, for the first 3 months we lived in the house. The first several weeks were ok. But immediately after marrying I noticed a slight shift in my wives ability to compromise and sacrifice for the betterment of our relationship, which was now an actual MARRIAGE. The differences and changes were subtle at first, but they would soon grow and become more frequent in the coming months.

In October she found work at a local pizza shop, albeit illegally. I was unable to stop her from working illegally, and I had no desire to “control” every aspect of her life. My mother and I both told her it was not a good idea to work before she received legal work authorization from U.S. immigration. We were afraid she could be caught, and potentially be deported. But she was adamant about working, and there is no way you can control someone that way. I just wanted her to be happy, so I never stepped on her toes or tried to control certain aspects of her life.

Petty arguments soon were the way. It seemed like almost every day, my "wife" would pick a fight about the slightest little thing. In January, right after the New Year holiday, she lost her job. I know she was working illegally, and even though I didn’t want her to, she insisted and I just wanted her to be happy. I had no desire to control her every move. I did not want her to get caught working illegally, but at the same time I had to sacrifice myself and my feelings so she could be independent and do her own thing. Her boss told her he had to let her go because “people had come around asking about illegal workers”. But I would find out a few months later that was not the truth. She was fired because the bosses wife couldn’t stand my wife. My wife has a certain aura about her, she has a very uppity attitude most of the time, and I never really saw it myself until after we got married. The bosses wife decided that my wife was a “know it all” who couldn’t be taught anything new because she supposedly knew everything. People keep telling me that my wife “always thought she was better than everyone else” or “thought she was perfect”. I can see all these things now. The words most used to describe my wife are “snobby”, “stuck-up”, “arrogant”, “weird”, “prissy” etc. She decided my wife had to go, and sure enough…her husband fired her. And after losing her job, things only got worse. I was working from home a lot at this point, and I thought it would be a good thing, so my "wife" wouldn’t be home alone in the house all winter. But it eventually made things worse.

She changed drastically. She was very emotional, and when she was upset, she more often than not started telling me to leave her alone. It seemed she never wanted my comfort. And when I would try to be there for her, she would tell me to go away and leave her alone, then she would tell me the next day that I “leave her all alone too much” when she is upset. And she would also tell me “you are so cold to me”. I had tried to comfort her, to hold her, to tell her everything was gonna be alright, but she pushed me away then used it against me as if I had done nothing and never tried to be by her side. This behavior was very suspicious to me, and it just seemed like she was doing this on purpose for a reason.

Silvia had also become EXTREMELY defensive and sometimes even combative. But, worse than that, was her TOTAL unwillingness to change to better the marriage, to compromise or to sacrifice for me or the marriage. The person I married was not this way. But I believe now that after Silvia actually achieved marriage, she became "comfortable" and started to slowly but surely exhibit her natural self and show signs of her true and genuine person. After several weeks of marriage, Silvia utterly and totally refused to give in, she would not even apologize to me if she said something totally hurtful or did something awful. She would not back down, she would not swallow her pride. She also wanted complete control over everything, after marriage she became awesomely domineering, she was referred to by friends and family who saw her actions as "The Little Tyrant". And looking back on it, she was a tyrant. She wanted control over the music we listened, the places we went, the shows we watched. Every single little thing. And if she didn't get her way, she would just start a fight, yell, then fly up to her bedroom and usually cry, but not all the time. These character traits were never shown to me prior to the marriage. If they were, I would've never entered into a marriage with such a person. 

There was one instance in November I believe, where Silvia had said something to me that was totally out of line and disrespectful. I asked her to apologize and she would not. I looked her right in the eyes and asked why she was doing this to me. Why couldn't she apologize to her own husband? I asked 2 more times, and she would not budge. I became upset, and I told her I was filing to annul the marriage, that I believed I was scammed and that I believed she did not genuinely love me. We had not sent her immigration package in yet, so all I needed to do was file for annulment. I was so upset, that I went in to our dressing room, saw a flash of white and collapsed to the floor. I believe our roommate and friend heard me fall, as his bedroom was across the hall from our spare room. I woke up to him knocking and asking if I was ok. I had dropped to the floor because of my wives extreme emotional and mental abuse she inflicted on me. To make matters worse, Silvia never came in to check on me, she stayed in our bed while I lie on the floor in the other room. She never came to check on me, to see if I was ok. I was nothing to her. I was merely a pain in the ass, that she had to deal with until she got her green card. I was just some guy she had to sleep with, some guy she had to pretend to love until she could get that lawful permanent residency.

After that incident, I tried to pack a backpack to leave the house. But I couldn't. I couldn't leave her, I couldn't desert her, I couldn't abandon her. She abused me so much, made me upset so many times, but it was like I was clinging to my abuser. I was so afraid of being alone, that I was willing to stay with someone who actually made me cry more times than anyone in my whole life. This girl knew how to break me down, build me up, then break me back down again. She would fight with me, say horrible things, threaten me by saying things like "I'm going home!", make me upset, then after I would try to leave she would be nice to me for a few days, then process would repeat itself. Break me down, build me up...break me down, build me up. She knew how to play me. And I remember 4 or 5 times I wanted to leave, 4 or 5 times I was almost convinced she didn't really love me and was using me for a green card. But I would end up not leaving the house. At least I can say that, I was strong enough to stand by her side, I never left her alone. Even when I thought she was scamming me, I stayed because after all, I was married to her, and I did fall for the person that was presented to me. I tried everything, but it seemed no matter what I did, it was wrong. I can admit now that I was so scared of being alone, that I actually stayed in that house with someone who made me cry rivers over her. I was just a glutton for Silvia's punishment. And she knew just what to say to hurt me. "I'm going home, Jon!" was her ace in the hole, the ace up her sleeve. She draw that one out and she knew how much it crushed me. That was her "go-to" final threat and statement if we were arguing. Even when I asked her to not say that to me anymore, she always would. 

I had gotten some big web design contracts at this point, and I was working from home 90% of the time. The money I was gonna make was substantial, and most of it was gonna go towards our honeymoon to Walt Disney World resort in Florida. I even left a video of the place up in our bedroom, right inside the TV stand. My wife never even asked about it, I don’t know if she ever saw it for that matter. The trip was going to be a surprise. I wanted to surprise her, my mom wanted to surprise her…..we wanted to do something special for her. But my wife is so uppity and negative, that you can’t even surprise her, because she would always assume the worse. It just seemed like I was totally unable to please this person. And all the traits of her personality that I have now learned from her ex-roommates were there…..they told me she would stay in her room most of the time and not participate in things the other roommates were doing. Well, that was definitely my wife, because it seemed all she wanted to do was stay up in our bedroom, either watching tv or on her laptop talking with people on Yahoo messenger.

Soon after my wife lost her job, our roommate moved out. Things were not working out for him here, and I felt terrible that he was in such a bad situation. After he moved out, I was down about it for a few days, and my wife made totally out-of-line and ridiculous comments to me, like “why are you so upset he is gone, are you gay?” I was totally blown away. This girl was saying things to me that I never dreamed she would say. Just totally off-the-wall stupid untrue things. I really don’t know if she was trying to hurt me or just being her arrogant self.

Also in early January, there was another instance of Silvia's total unwillingness to act as a genuine wife with an actual husband. I had to go to court to fight a bogus ticket I had received while taking both Silvia and our roommate to Nashua for their immigration physicals a few months previous. At the court, I essentially won the battle for us, because I did not lose my license. I had made it clear to Silvia that they were trying to take my license away for 60 or 90 days, I don't remember. And I told her that it is important to succeed in the court because if I lost my license, things would be EXTREMELY difficult for us. I had to succeed for Silvia and our marriage. I needed to do it for her. Well I ended up only getting a $300 fine. I did not have the cash on me, as I had no idea what to expect before arriving at the court. Our roommate was with us also, as a witness to what had happened. After getting into my truck, I asked Silvia to help me pay the fine, because it had to be paid THAT DAY before the court closed, and I did not want to drive all the way back to Hampton and then back to Salem, NH again. I was happy to have avoided losing my license, but Silvia immediately brought me right down and made me feel like crap, because she did not want to help her husband pay a fine. I even had to offer paying her back. Yes, that's right, paying my wife back. My "wife". Yeah, so I thought. Anyhow, Silvia put up a huge fight about it as we sat in the truck, she was totally refusing to help me, and yelling things like "I can't believe I have to help you and spend my money". I knew right then and there that I was suspicious of Silvia. I believe that may have been a definite catalyst to my suspicions of Silvia and why she really married me. Our roommate seemed shocked as well, to see a supposed "wife" actually put up a fight and not be willing to help her own "husband". Silvia would eventually decide to help me, but only after verbally assaulting me and berating me in front of our roommate for about 10 minutes. As we got out of the truck and walked up to the court house doors, Silvia belittled me the whole way. She made me feel about an inch tall. I had an epiphany of some sort on that day, I truly realized that there was going to be problems with the marriage and with Silvia, because her actions against me were totally suspect. Her complete and total unwillingness to help her own husband in a time of need was not only hurtful, but suspicious. Silvia just had no idea how she made herself look in front of others.....she actually made herself look like a marriage fraud scammer. She actually made it look fairly obvious that she didn't really love and care about me, and that the marriage was instead a matter of convenience for her, and any time I asked for or needed help or assistance during the marriage, that was an inconvenience to Silvia. Along with putting up a fight about helping me, Silvia also made it clear herself that her money was hers, notours. Silvia continually proved that she was indeed a separate entity and party during the fraudulent marriage.

In late January and throughout February, I began to question her motives for entering into a marriage with me. I really began asking many questions about who she was conversing with on the internet, and I asked her what her true objective was for marrying me. She was not nervous in the beginning, but around mid-February, I noticed she became even more secretive and obviously nervous about my questioning of her.

At this time, in February, she began networking with some illegal alien Russian kids that she met through her girl friend, Tania. Tania worked at the gas station/ store around the corner from our home, and Tania also happened to be from Moldova. She was here on a tourist visa, and I would ultimately find out that it was B-visa and that she was working illegally. Within weeks after my wife met these illegal aliens through Tania, she was fully packed and she moved out of my house. The day she left was March 5th, 2009. She no doubt had been coached by the illegal aliens on how to remain in the U.S. without her marriage. She had grown tired of acting as a true, legitimate wife & spouse, so she conspired with these illegals to find a place to stay so she could leave my house.

I knew things were strange, because Tania had started to come to our house more often starting in mid to late January. Tania was trying to find an American man to marry so she could gain citizenship here. While in my home, she propositioned a friend of mine, offering him $10,000 in order for him to enter in to a sham marriage with her. He refused. In my home, Tania also spoke of the illegal activity her Russian boyfriend and his friends were committing, including immigration document fraud. They were doctoring their papers so they could get drivers licenses, vehicle registrations, and even jobs. The moment Tania tried to tell me wife how to illegally obtain a drivers license, I asked her stop, and I told her not to get my wife involved in her illegal activity, because we were married legitimately (so I thought) and we were doing things the right way, the legal way. I had no desire to be involved with federal offenses and a criminal network of illegal aliens. Tania agreed to stop the talk of illegal activity in my house. But she would ultimately help to destroy my life.

At this time, during late February, Silvia began to show signs of actual nervousness when I would confront her about why she married me. She had begun to compare me to her ex-boyfriend, stating how she was "always treated like a princess" and "got whatever she wanted". In that instant, I immediately asked her why she was her in the U.S., with me, and she stated "I don't know". I then said, "maybe for your green card, Silvia". She just looked at me with a very strange, peculiar look, then looked away and would answer no questions. 

 During the month of February, I had really begun to ponder the thought that I may have been duped into a marriage so my wife could obtain immigration benefits, I began to do research online. I found a list of "red flags" for immigration marriage fraud, and I was STUNNED to see so many similarities to my current situation. Silvia had never, and I repeat NEVER at any time whatsoever referred to herself as "married" online. Worse, Silvia NEVER at any time posted photos of us together as a married couple on her personal pages like her hi5.com page. It never stated she was married, and it never included a single photo of US. Silvia always said she would add photos of us, better never did. She kept stalling until she would eventually leave the fraudulent marriage. In October, I had created a myspace.com page for her, with her permission. This was the only way to include photos of us as a married couple for friends and family to share online. I also noticed my mother was on Facebook.com, so I created a page there for Silvia as well, with her knowledge. A few weeks later, while looking at Silvia's myspace page, I noticed it was changed from "married" to "single". Silvia had complete and full access to these accounts, as they were hers and only "set up" by me. She had logged in herself, and changed her marital status from married to single. This was a HUGE indicator of Silvia's intentions in and thoughts of the "marriage". I was very hurt by this, and that may have been one of the initial indicators and catalysts that made me come to the conclusion that my marriage was indeed fraudulent from it's inception. Even worse, we had taken photos together at the beach and on Plum Island, and Silvia would only add the photos of herself, photos I took of her, but she refused to include the photos that included me. In fact, Silvia never even had a photo of just ME on her hi5.com page. "Married", but no photo of your own husband? Hmmmmmm...... Silvia also never even had a photo of us together as her desktop wallpaper on her laptop computer. She was just totally scamming me, and did not want people from her home country or surrounding area to see who she had entered into a marriage with, because she probably knew that they would question her true intentions and reasons for marrying a U.S. citizen after only knowing him 2 months. Imagine that......your own wife has no pictures of you of at all displayed for people to see, she keeps you "secret", and never referes to herself as "married". It's so blatantly obvious, the marriage was a FRAUD! Silvia is and was a cold and calculating Eastern European SCAMMER!

So on March 5th, my "wife" called my mother over to our house. My mom just assumed she was coming for a normal visit, to talk and have tea with my wife. But no, this would be the day my wife would tell my mother the marriage was never real. My mom came in, with 2 or 3 gifts of flavored coffees. My wife didn’t have the balls to start the conversation, so it started when my mom noticed me upset. She asled what was wrong, and I told her “Silvia is leaving me”. My mom was crushed. It was like I could see her lose her breath. Then, my wife decided she could talk. My mother told her that she was a married woman, and that she should not be acting so immature. My wife told her she could not do it anymore. My mom then mentioned marriage counseling or seeking help through marriage mediation, but my wife had absolutely no interest in it whatsoever. My mother became extremely upset, then my wife made the following statement that will forever be burned into my mind: “This wasn’t a real marriage, Nannie. I’m sorry. I only had sex with Jon once a month anyway. I still care about you though.” I fell to my knees in total and utter disbelief and shock. My mom left within the hour. Silvia began to pack her things around 1pm. I left the house a bit after 2pm, as I was disgusted with the situation. Now here is one of the most disgusting memories I have of my wife…..as I was leaving with my dog, my wife came down the stairs and into the kitchen. She asked me “do you want to give me a hug goodbye?” I was so shocked and disgusted.

Now think about this for a minute: She met me. “Fell in love fast”. Married fast. Left the marriage fast. And would ultimately self-petition fast. Isn’t this the least bit suspicious? This girl actually believed that she could come in to my life, marry me, then just bolt when she didn’t feel comfortable anymore. She actually asked me to give her a hug goodbye. Wow. Like it was nothing, because yeah, the marriage was nothing to her. It was nothing more than a tool for her to receive immigration benefits. I was just her vehicle and instrument for achieving her ultimate goal of lawful permanent residency. My wife utterly refused to co-mingle assets, funds or interests. She wouldn’t even open a join bank account with me as her “husband”. Silvia was a total and complete separate entity and party in this marriage from it's inception. She was secretive, cunning, stealthy and deceitful. And Silvia never at any time had full, honest intentions of fulfilling her marital duties and obligations. The marriage was merely a “step” in the process of her gaining legal residency in the United States.

I should also mention that my “wife” made silly statements to me concerning “her property”. She told me on multiple occasions that I was NOT allowed to touch her laptop. I would frequently remind my wife that we were in fact “married”, and “what’s mine is yours, and what’s yours is mine”, but Silvia would have absolutely nothing of it. She totally disregarded that, did not believe in it, and did not accept it. Silvia was a complete separate party in the marriage, with her own property, her own interests, and her own agenda. She made it abundantly clear that her property was HERS AND HERS ONLY. I also became very suspicious of Silvia one day after she flipped out on me because I was looking at someones profile. I had clicked "View Profile" in her Yahoo messenger. I don't remember who it was, but asked what I was doing. I told her I was viewing the profile of one of her online friends, and then she totally lost it. She yelled at me, and told me I was not allowed to use her laptop. She told me I should never look at things "without her permission". Now, this was supposed to be my "wife" talking to me. I was just totally suspicious of her from that point on. Silvia was afraid I was gonna find her ex-boyfriend on there, or someone else that she had lied about. People only hide things for a REASON, and she just didn't want me to stumble upon something she had always hidden from me.

My wife would return to the house almost daily during the first week after she left, demanding and begging me to “help her” get her green card. She stated during one visit that if I really loved her I should “help her anyway, even if I was used”. Unreal. This girl actually believed in her mind that she deserved nothing but good things after what she had done to me and my family. On March 12th, after a conversation via Yahoo messenger in which I firmly stated I would not help her and pretend to be her husband at the immigration interview, she came to the house unexpectedly. I heard a loud banging on the door. Upon opening it, my wife shoved me out of the way and she made a b-line for the kitchen counter. She grabbed the largest carving knife from the knife block, and turned with it to come at me. I raised my hands in the air and asked her what she was doing. She had a very eery, glazed look in her eyes. About 3 feet from me, she immediately turned to the left and went for the large teddy bear I had bought her for Valentine’s Day. She had brought it with her, but dropped it when she shoved me. It was now lying in front of the front door. She began stabbing it’s “heart”, repeatedly. I tried to get near her to make her stop but I was unable to. She was thrusting the knife too violently. Once she had destroyed the chest of the teddy bear, she stopped, then walked out onto the porch and began ripping up pictures of us from New Years and knocking things over. She went through the house destroying things and throwing things on the floor, then left through the back door. This incident was clearly thought out by Silvia, as she had returned to the house with the teddy bear. So I know for sure she planned to race into the kitchen and grab a knife. I had never seen that look on her face before. I had to call the police and make a domestic violence report.The responding officer came to my house and after seeing the knife and the teddy bear exclaimed to me that the incident was "pretty scary". I filed report on Silvia, but did not press charges. I should have. The police went to find Silvia, but they could not find her, because at that time she was lying and telling me she was at Tania's, but she was not, she was living with the boys and sharing a bed with another guy, and I hadn't found that out yet. So the police were basicially out on a wild good goose chase trying to find Silvia because she was a deceitful liar and nobody knew at that time where she really was. LIAR! 

Around 10 days after my wife left my home, I found out she was not staying where she told me. She was not at Tania’s, she was living with the illegal alien Russian guys. She had lied from the start. She was now telling me things like "leave me alone, boy" and lying about everything, and I mean EVERYTHING. She just absolutely did not love me, ever. And she did not care how much she was hurting me. She told me on several occasions that she did not love me, that the marriage was not real, that there was “never real love”, and that I was “never her ideal husband” to begin with. The amount of emotional and mental abuse she inflicted on me is staggering. She also became physically abusive on multiple occasions. Until around January, it was only hitting me, spitting on me, or pushing me. But around late January, February and into the early days of March, she had started to bite me. During one argument, she bit my hands to the bone, causing bleeding on one hand. I never reported the abuse, because I knew that if she was arrested on a felony, like domestic violence, she would be deported. I wanted to speak with someone about her abuse, but I did not want her to get in trouble. I guess I felt bad for her too often. Even though she had changed so much, I still felt love for her because I was hoping that the person I met would return. However, that was not in the cards. That person I thought existed was just a fraud, a phony and a fake.

After she left, I began writing a letter of withdrawal that would be sent to USCIS. It’s purpose is to request withdrawal of support for Silvia’s Adjustment of Status of package. Without my form I-130, my wifes immigration paperwork becomes null & void. On March 15th I sent the letter to USCIS, and on March 17th, I filed for annulment of the marriage. I was done, I had realized that I was used. I did also realize that I made many mistakes and could’ve been a better person, husband and companion. But no matter how good I was to my wife, she was still going to leave me. All my mistakes didn’t matter in the end, because the ending would always be the same no matter which path I took with Silvia. Whether she was going to leave me before or after she got her temporary green card was ultimately up to her. And she chose to leave before receiving it because she couldn’t take the pressure of my questions anymore. Silvia had pretended long enough, she couldn’t live with me anymore, and could no longer act as my legitimate wife, especially after I became totally suspicious of her reasons for entering into a marriage with me. 

After so many questions from me, she decided to leave my home. The first night she was gone, I went to Tania’s apartment to get my house key. Silvia had told me that’s where she would be, but ofcourse, I didn’t know yet that was a complete and total lie. Tania was home but would not tell me where my wife was. A few Russian kids pulled up in a gold Maxima to pick up Tania. I asked the driver if her knew my wife, he said “no”. Little did I know it would be the guy I would end up catching my wife sharing a bed with. He lied to me, he knew her, because that’s where they were going. They picked up Tania to go back to their cottage, where my wife was. They thought I was a fool.

And Silvia would also commit a misdemeanor crime by not reporting her change of address to USCIS after leaving my home. Silvia just totally did not care what she was doing. She also had no respect for me, or Jay, or my mother, or my family, because she was committing federal immigration crimes, and did not care that she was involving us. We were her SPONSORS, and we could be held liable for her illegal actions, but Silvia did not care. She is the most selfish, disrespectful, ungrateful person I have ever come in to contact with. Silvia did whatever SHE wanted, and it didn't matter who else she dragged down with her. It didn't matter how many people she hurt or destroyed. It was all about Silvia, because Silvia wanted to have "fun". 

The following night after she left, March 6th, it really hit me that she was gone, and that the person I thought I knew and fell in love with did not actually exist. I was crawling around on our bedroom floor that night, sick, throwing up, unable to eat, losing weight rapidly......she was out with other guys, going to clubs, giving out her cell phone number to strange guys the first night she met them, sharing a bed with another guy. She was living it UP, while I was DOWN in a hole. I was supposed to be her "husband", but she didn’t love me, so treating me like dirt did not affect her, not one bit. She did it with ease. It was so easy for her, she would even see me walking my dog in the morning, and she wouldn’t even look at me, let alone wave at her own "husband". She would just drive by with one of her new illegal alien friends driving her to work (she was rehired at the pizza shop in mid-March), and she would pretend as though I didn’t even exist. That’s how we all knew she never loved me. That’s how my family and I knew I was used for a green card. Because a REAL wife would NEVER do things like that to her husband. It was just so bad, everything she was doing, and she saw absolutely nothing wrong with it. She didn’t see anything wrong with what she was doing, and she obviously didn’t care how she made herself look. Her very own actions actually made her look more like the marriage fraud scammer, and she did not care at all. I would give anything to know what was going through her mind, why she was lying so much and treating me this way? I never did anything remotely bad enough or for long enough, to deserve what she was doing to me.

On March 14th, Silvia returned to my home yet again, this time to draw up a contract offering me $200 a month for 2 YEARS, and one last night together as my “wife”. She signed it right in front of me, as if she was “ready to go with it”. I believe at that time she really thought I would accept it because she had added in sex to entice me. I refused, and she again became upset. She started crying, begging me to help her. I told her firmly that I refused to lie to federal immigration officers and adjudicators, and masquerade as her husband. I made it clear that I had already lost the last 5 months of my life to her in this fraudulent marriage anyway, and there was no way I would help a person like her, someone who scammed me. She again stated that if I really loved her I should “help her anyway”. I said no way, I will not commit a federal offense in order to help her. She had destroyed my life, why would I help her? She left the house upset, with her contract in her hand. She called me on the phone about an hour later, crying, and telling me that she was gonna throw the contract away so she wouldn’t get in trouble. Little did I know, again, she was being cunningly deceptive and the crying was FAKE. At some point, she would have one her Russian illegal alien friend forge my name on the marriage fraud contract. However, they did a horrible job. All Silvia had to do was look at my drivers license or look at my signature on her immigration documents. It didn’t look legit, and Silvia never had any plans to throw the contract away, her plan was to use it against me if I wouldn’t help her. She was going to use it to blackmail me, to strongarm me into a contract. She threatened me and said she would send it to USCIS if I did not “help her” get her green card. After that didn’t work, she then stated again that she threw it away so “neither of us would get in trouble.” But she was deceptive yet again, because after moving back in to her bedroom in my house, I found the contract in her manila folder. And I have it now, the evidence that proves her number 1 objective at all times was to achieve legal resident status in America. Silvia will stop at nothing to achieve this goal. She will say and do anything and everything. It does not matter who she hurts or who’s life she destroys in the process. "It's all about Silvia"

I eventually found her in bed with another guy, one of the illegal Russians. It happened in thev very early morning hours of March 29th. Silvia had returned to the cottage around 1am that night after going to the "Greek Club" in Peabody, MA with her boss, Greg. That night at the Club, I would ultimately find out that Silvia had met a kid named "Andy", and she had no problem giving her cell phone number out to him the first night she met him. Her boss Greg somehow thought it was acceptable to bring my wife to a club to meet other guys. Anyhow, the kid lying in the bed even admitted he shared a bed with my "wife", and my wife still denied it lol. I had a witness to it, too. But her extreme denial tells her it never happened. But we both heard and saw her in the bed with another guy, with the lights out and the door locked. Despicable. That was the end for me, and I IMMEDIATELY sent a letter of withdrawal to USCIS requesting they pull my support of form I-130. And they did. After seeing what I saw that night after entering the bedroom, I was totally sickened and disgusted with Silvia. I wanted to puke. I was done with her, and I had no desire to even be near her. She was poisened. Lying in bed with another guy was acceptable behavior to her. But not to me. Sorry, if it were me, and I was caught lying in bed with another girl with the lights out and the door locked, I know exactly what people would think. That is not acceptable behavior from a married spouse. And I don't care how they do things over there, over her it's NOT ACCEPTABLE. As Silvia stood in the bedroom, after being caught, wearing the pink bathrobe that my mother had bought for her, she just stared down at the floor. That's what guilty people do. Silvia for sure was wearing her little plaid booty shorts and her small, tight tank top under her bathrobe. And she thought this was totally acceptable behavior for a MARRIED woman. But no, this just proves Silvia was never really married. She was married on paper, but not in her heart, mind and soul.Silvia can'teffectively lie about this, because I had a witness, Mike was standing right behind me. I also heard and saw her in bed with the guy.Silvia did have enough time to jump out of the bed and put her bathrobe on though, because when I entered the front door, I asked "who's in the bedroom with my wife?" Silvia heard me, and that gave her a few seconds to hop out of the bed in her little shorts. But we saw Silvia in the bed with him, she was lying closest to the wall. Before even entering the cottage, while listening to Silvia talk with this kid in bed, I actually tried to call my wife. I called her phone twice to confront her. But she was a coward, and would not answer the cell phone. I could actually hear her phone ringing through the window. I also heard Silvia tell the kid she was with something, he probably asked who it was, and she must've said "oh shit, it's my husband". Silvia was busted red-handed. But Silvia wouldn't answer the phone, she just blew her husband off, she blew me off like I was just some piece of worthless shit. She didn't care, she was in bed with another guy, so what? Right? No big deal. 

Her sharing a bed with another guy was bad, but the fact remains that her lying about it and denying it for WEEKS makes it all that much worse. How many times did Silvia lie RIGHT TO MY FACE and tell me "I'm not sharing a bed with anyone." and "I have my own room there, Jon." She is such a pathetic, pathological liar. And when a women from a poor Eastern European country wants a green card, she will LIE, LIE and then LIE some more in order to get that. It doesn't matter what she has do or what she has to say. She will stop at nothing to achieve that goal. It's no wonder, that my wife effectively prostituted herself to me for approximately 7 months in order to obtain immigration benefits. 

 I tried to get her to love me. I sent her a letter, I tried to save my marriage. I thought that is what I was supposed to do. I thought I was supposed to fight for my marriage. I never wanted to get married, but when I met this girl, I broke down. I broke my number one conviction in life...to never get married. I broke it for her. I went against my number one conviction for someone that I thought genuinely loved me. I wrote vows and made promises of change. I was so busy beating my self up over it, and thinking that everything was my fault. I thought if I changed some things about my self, that she would love me and come home. I thought everything was my fault. I was so stupid. I tried to make her love me, I tried to get her to see I was a good person, but we all know that you can't make someone love you. She told me it was not love, she looked at a picture of us that was taken on New Years eve, and she told me it was never love, it wasn't love. That was very hard to accept. She herself was telling me that she never loved me. Not someone else telling me, her. She told me herself. But I tried, I tried to get her to love me, I tried to save the marriage. But Silvia would end up telling me several times "don't try to save this marriage". She told me she never loved me, she told me it wasn't love, and she told me I was never her ideal husband. How much clearer can you get?

Silvia also made up rumors about me, in order to make me "look bad" and help to somehow 'justify' her reason for walking out on me. She threatened to tell people I was bi-sexual, gay, a druggie, amongst other things. Only god knows what she has told people. Her lies and deception weren't enough, she needed to spew more venomous lies and slander me. Just more hurtful untruths from a girl desperately trying to remain in the U.S. 

On March 31st, I allowed my wife to move back in to my rented home. She was also served the dissolution of marriage petition in hand by the Sheriff on this day. He served her while she worked illegally at the pizza shop, which I found kind of ironic. She told me and my mother that she was departing the U.S. on April 19th. Silvia gave me $100, and I told her she could stay at the house until the lease was up on April 28th. She declined, and stated that she only wanted to stay until she left the country. Little did I know that Silvia had another plan, although she told us she was departing the U.S. and returning home to Moldova, she never had any such intent. She moved back in, and I moved my things out of our bedroom. I moved into the spare room at the other end of the hall, the room left empty after our roommate moved out. During this stay, which would only turn our to be for about 4 days, Silvia and I were roommates, and there was never any marriage like activity, none whatsoever. We didn’t hug, kiss, have sexual relations, or even share food. Little did I know, that I would soon be a victim of Silvia’s deception yet again…..

I would also find a small photo of Silvia's "ex-boyfriend" from back in Moldova in her wallet. It was hidden behind her debit card. I never knew that was there the whole 7 months I was with Silvia, 5 of those months actually "married". She never at any time had a photo of me, her "husband", in her wallet. I firmly believe that we keep photos of those we love in our wallets, the people closest to us, and Silvia having a hidden photo of her supposed ex-boyfriend in her wallet, and none of me, leads me to believe even more that she was in fact fraudulent and the marriage itself is fraudulent. Silvia didn't even do the most basic of things to show she was a legitimate, genuine wife in a bona-fide marriage. Silvia believed she could just sleep with me when SHE wanted, cook me dinner once a week, and do the laundry once a week, and everybody would believe and assume she was genuine. She refused all other mutual marital responsibilities, and scoffed at anything even remotely considered "marriage-like". Silvia wouldn't even watch a movie with me if it was my idea. It had to be her choice, or she would turn her back to me. I have to be honest when I say that Silvia did not do a very good job of making herself look "legit" and valid in this marriage. Over just several months, she raised so many "red flags", that she essentially gave herself up and made me completely suspicious of her. Her own actions led to my withdrawing my support of her Adjustment of Status package. She herself made it happen. And we all know that actions speak louder than words.....and Silvia's own suspicious and questionable actions during this marriage would lead to her to being reported to Immigration & Customs Enforcement.

On Friday April 3rd, I confronted Silvia about lying while being back in the house. She had worked that night, I picked her up at the regular time, 9:30pm. I picked her up in her car that I had bought for her and spent a lot of money on so it would pass inspection. I wanted to make her believe nothing was wrong, since I had let her drive the car home the previous night. She couldn't get a drivers license because she was not a legal N.H. resident yet. But she could drive as long as I was on the car with her. I picked her up, I asked her why she didnt call me to see how I was during the day. She told me she was too busy, it was "way too busy to talk to anyone". And I knew she was lying, because I had already called "Andy"...the kid who lives down in Peabody, MA. Silvia met him at the Greek Club the Saturday night previous. The same night I found her in bed with the Russian boy. Silvia had contact with this "Andy" once or twice since that night. Well when I checked our cell phones records online, I saw that she called "Andy" from work at around 4pm. I called him myself. He told me how he met Silvia at the Greek Club, how she NEVER mentioned she was a married woman, how they had spoken on the phone since meeting each other just to "say hi". I told him if he called my wife again, I would make him disappear. He promptly stated that he would lose her number. I was enraged. I couldnt believe this girl was hurting me this way. I never thought she would. But I picked her up from work as usual. I let her drive the car home. And on the drive home, I confronted her. When she told me she was too busy to call someone from work, I replied "Oh, really, too busy to call anyone, huh?" She stuck to her guns. She kept on lying. I had already talked to "Andy", and Silvia just kept on denying she ever called him from work. She had already lied about talking to him...the very first night she moved back home he called her at 10pm as we lay in our bed together. Silvia told me it was a girl on the phone, even though I could clearly hear a mans voice, I was only 2 feet away from Silvia. But she would continue to lie anyway. When we got in the house, I showed her Andy's cell phone number. I had it written down on a piece of scrap paper. She still denied it. I then grabbed her phone from her, I scrolled down her Contacts list and didnt have to go far to see "Andy". She knew I had her caught, she was busted. But she would just manipulate the story farther in order to try and manipulate me. I wasnt buying it. I told her to go upstairs and read the letter from USCIS that had conveniently appeared in my mailbox only seconds after getting off the phone with "Andy". 

I told her I had no desire to remain in the house with such a deceptive person. And I wish I had left earlier. I did have plans to start moving out early, to at least get some of my things moved out instead of waiting until the last minute. That afternoon, on April 3rd, I received the letter from USCIS stating that my request for withdrawal of support for Silvia’s AOS package was accepted, and as of March 25th, she was an “out-of-status” deportable alien. Later that night, after she returned home from work, I showed her the letter. She read it, and became enraged upon realizing that I had indeed done what I said I was gonna do…..start the process of removing myself from the fraudulent marriage. Silvia attacked me, swinging her hands wildly, kicking and scratching. I let her take her aggression out on me during this initial attack, as I had expected her to react that way after reading the letter. It was a serious issue, her papers were withdrawn, and I expected the worst. After this first attack, I explained to her that I intended to stay in the home until the lease was up, and that my original idea of leaving in mid-April was off the table. I told her that this was the last time I would allow her to abuse me in my own home, and that she needed to move out by the following evening. After I made that statement, she attacked me again, this time one of her fingers going underneath my left eyeball. The strange and uncomfortable feeling caused a natural instinctual reaction to defend myself, and I shoved her off of me. I immediately checked my eye as I had become momentarily disoriented and my vision was extremely blurred. I felt lucky that my eye was still in its socket, but I did have a small mouse/bruise under my left eye and bleeding from my cheek under that. I told Silvia that she had gotten physical for the last time and that she needed to go. I also told her repeatedly that even though I pushed her off me in defense of my eye, it was still wrong. I felt horrible, even after everything she had said and done, even after all the lies she had told me, I somehow still felt bad for her. I told her I would report to the police about the incident, and she repeatedly refused. I now believe she did not want me to report the incident because she knew if the police saw the injury to my eye, they would have to arrest her. But her new plan was unfolding, and I had no idea what I was in for. We went to sleep, and woke up and had breakfast and tea together around 10:30am.

I was at fault that night as well. After finding out Silvia had called that Andy kid from work, behind my back, I called my mother and told her about it, and how I was done with Silvia and was planning to confront her about these boys she was getting too familiar with and lying about. My mother actually told me to hold off, and not say anything to her. My mom wanted me to pick Silvia up from work that night just the same, but not say anything to her about what I knew. My mother wanted me to continue to allow Silvia to hurt me even more. I just couldnt do it. I had to get it off my chest. Silvia was killing me, I was in pain. I had to end the relationship, whatever kind it was. I was at fault though, I said and did some things that night that no person should ever say or do to someone they really love. But she was hurting me so terribly, so horribly, and it seemed like she enjoyed doing it. It just seemed like she hated me all along, and was enjoying watching me crumble and shatter. Silvia hit me, I grabbed Silvia. We grabbed each other. I put my hands on her neck. She scratched me. It was the most HORRIFIC experience of my entire life. I repented for 12 months after the mistake I made. I never dreamed we would end that way. I loved her so much. I really did, I loved her more than myself. I would have given my life for my wife in order for her to be safe. And to see and hear us become so bitter and horrible to each other, to see and hear us fight so terribly...it destroyed me. It shattered me in to a million pieces. I will never forget the looks on our faces when we fought that night. The look on her face when things got physical between us. I am haunted by it every night. We all make mistakes, and I had finally made the biggest one of my life. I just never imagined things would end this way between us. I still can't believe that much love can turn so terrible. 

So it was a new day, and Silvia was fully aware that I had withdrawn support of her immigration package and that I had filed to remove myself from the marriage. I believe this infuriated Silvia, and her knowing that I had caught her scamming me made her extremely vindictive. At around 11:30am, Silvia stole the car that was parked in the driveway. She had no drivers license and no right to the vehicle, but she found my keys somewhere and drove the car uptown to her work. I immediately called the police and reported the car stolen. Silvia’s new plan had just unhatched. I went to retrieve the car, as I found it at the pizza shop, and I went in to talk to her boss. Silvia then came in with her friend Tania. We went upstairs to talk. Silvia stated to her boss that I “tried to kill her”. I was blown away. At that very moment, I realized why Silvia had decided to come back to my house…….she needed to in order to make this extreme false accusation in order to self-petition with immigration. It became perfectly clear to everyone that she had been coached, and someone told her to return to my home as a roommate so she could make false accusations of abuse. Silvia had a red mark on the side of her neck, and I realized that when I shoved her away to protect my eye, one hand must’ve been on her shoulder and the other on her neck. I had given Silvia the “ammo” she needed to make her extreme, hurtful, frivolous allegations against me. I now hear from people that Silvia says I “beat her throughout the marriage”. These horrible false accusations have led to a loss of work and income. My wife has severely affected my life as I knew it, mentally, emotionally, financially…..I have been destroyed.

It seems the consensus is the same all around...most people (in general) that knew me or Silvia and were around us and our marriage believe that Silvia was indeed an attractive person. But they say that very soon after I actually married her, that they noticed changes in her attitude and demeanor. The "attractive person" turned unattractive, and I guess those who knew us just think that Silvia slowly but surely started to become "herself" after achieving the goal of marriage with a U.S. citizen.

I should also add that there were things Silvia didn't do during our marriage that helped me to become suspicious of her. It wasn't just the negative, hurtful things that she did do, there were things that she didn't do, that everyone around thought that a true wife would do. For instance, when someone would ask Silvia..."what are you doing with Jon?", Silvia would ALWAYS respond negatively...and say things like "I don't know". Now the first time, it was funny. We would all have a laugh. HA HA. But the 3rd, then 4th time, it became hurtful. And I would sit there and think to myself......"shouldn't she be saying something like...because I love him?" She never did say anything remotely close to that. And I would ask friends that were also married, most of them married for over 15 years, and they would ALWAYS say..."that's really not normal, man. That's strange." Compile all that with the fact that my "wife" hid photos of me and us together, refused to co-mingle interests with me, and have a real true "partnership" in actual marriage, Silvia seems just flat-out suspicious. And the sad thing is, Silvia will never be honest with me, or even herself, as to the reasons why she did such hurtful things and didn't do the lovely things a real wife would. Did my "wife" ever send me a gift or a love letter or do any of those things like I did for her? NO. When someone asked me what I was doing with an immigrant, I told them that I loved Silvia beyond words and that I was the happiest, luckiest man in the world. My "wife" did nothing of the sort. I was just like a piece of meat to her, a piece of meat that could allow her residency in the U.S. 

I also believe that shortly after the actual marriage, Silvia became exceptionally comfortable, and decided that she could be extremely ungrateful. And one point, maybe 2 or 3 months after marriage, Silvia forgot why she was still in the U.S.......BECAUSE I MARRIED HER AND PETITIONED FOR HER. And at one point, Silvia would also tell me, flat out, that I was not the reason why she was still in the United States. Not only was that hurtful, but completely silly for her to say, considering if I had not married her, she would've been on a plane back to Moldova on September 25th. She really took the essence of our relationship away. It went from a sweet falling-in-love courtship, to Silvia just being here for her green card and work authorization. It was almost as if she had completely forgotten about me and everything I had done for her, everything in my life I had changed for her, and everything I had sacrificed in order for us to be together. I had even given up my best-friend, because he didn't like Silvia, and he was suspicious of her from the start. But I made it clear to him that I was now married (so I thought), and was living a different life. I told him my wife comes first, and he made the decision to leave me life. In fact, he did not even show up to our reception party. He did not accept Silvia, he knew that sometime in the future she would destroy, and he was right. And to this day, Silvia will claim that I did not give up anything for her. She even stated on more than one occasion that I had not changed anything about my life for her. At the same time, I had my whole family telling me they couldn't believe how much I had changed, and how happy they were that I found someone else so beautiful to live for and care for. I had changed so much. I completely change my whole self and my whole life around to accommodate the woman I had fallen in love with. To Silvia, I had done nothing. I was just a piece of garbage. I couldn't believe it...I had given up my best-friend for my wife, because my wife was more important, and I believed truly in my heart that Silvia was my best-friend, my wife, my life-partnet. I took her and this marriage so seriously. I lived my life for her, and I was totally willing to give up whatever I had to in order to make sure we were happy. I would have done anything for the person I fell in love with, the person I thought I knew. But that person was merely a figment of my imagination. It was just a person pretended to me, for a reason. That reason being lawful permanent residency. Ask this question.....would Silvia had given up her best-friend for me? ABSOLUTELY NOT! Why? Because Silvia did not love me. Not like that. No way. Silvia told me on multiple occasions that she "would not fight for me". If something happened and I did something wrong, like cheat on her (which never happened or ever would happen), she would never fight for me. I didn't mean SHIT to this girl.I was just her tool for immigration success. Now what typeo of legitimate wife tells their husband that they would never fight for them? Can anyone say "Red Flag"???

Other hurtful instances I can remember include laying in bed with Silvia one night, and as I ate something , she began to complain about how I didn't offer her any of my snack. I responded by telling her that I never offered her my sweet snacks anymore, because she always said NO. I would only offer her things if it were fruit or something healthier. Silvia 99% of the time would refuse chocolate. She then began to tell me how great her "ex-boyfriend" was, and how she was used to being treated like a "princess" and "getting everything she wanted.". It made me feel bad, but at the same time, it hurt me to listen to my "wife" compare me to someone she was with previously. I then asked her; "if things are so good there, and he is so great, what are you doing here with me?" My "wife" responded..."I don't know."She doesn't say "I'm here, with you, because I love you." No, never. She said "I don't know." That was really the beginning of the end if I remember correctly. 

At this point now, I am still being manipulated and being used for immigration benefits by this person. She is now trying to commit VAWA waiver fraud. It's not enough, that after she left, she signed a contract to commit immigration marriage fraud which I have as proof of her #1 objective in staying in the U.S., she now wants to use "The Abuse Excuse" and claim she is a battered spouse. But she is not, never was. At least not by me. I never laid a finger on this girl. But when all other ways didn’t work for her, she found one last option she could try to use to defraud not only me, but the government as well. My wife is also telling people I beat her. The funnier thing is that some of the people she has told this to, have told me and a few of my friends that they don’t like Silvia, that she’s a “know it all” and that she “has a bad attitude about everything”. So the people she is lying to about abuse can’t stand her either. One girl actually told me that she “could tell Silvia was lying”cwhen she said I beat her throughout our marriage. That particular witness stated she only met Silvia twice, didn’t like her, was not friends with her and did not want to be friends with her.

So now annulment proceedings are under way. She is cross-petitioning for divorce. However, there is too much evidence proving marriage fraud. Along with the evidence, we never had anything jointly because she was a separate entity/party in this fraudulent marriage. She utterly refused to co-mingle funds, assets, interests etc. It was NOT a legitimate, valid marriage. It was entered into under false pretenses, and was fraudulent from its very inception. Silvia made deceitful, false promises of life-long companionship, true fidelity and genuine love. But Silvia never intended to remain in the marriage and fulfill her marital duties and obligations. It was a sham. 

UPDATE: On August 24th, 2009 I appeared in court alone for the final hearing. I fired my attorney. My opening statement consisted of me explaining to the judge that I was withdrawing my annulment petition, and giving Silvia the divorce she needed in order to try and stay in America. Silvia knew as well as I did that if the marriage was annulled on the basis of her fraud, she would have been deported and banned for LIFE from ever entering the United States. I explained my reasons for withdrawing the annulment, which mostly consisted of my true and genuine love & care that I had for Silvia Zlate. The judge was surprised at my decision, as he knew that I had THE PROOF and EVIDENCE of her fraud. I had her marriage fraud contract with me. But I decided to lay down my arms, and to prove to Silvia that I was still the good man she had supposedly fallen in love with, and that I had forgiven her for all the extreme hurt she had caused. I also wanted to show her that I could be good to her, and care about her future, even though she hated me so much. But, it turn out that even though I had helped her at the final hearing, she would STILL try to destroy me and have me thrown in jail on December 2nd, 2009. (I will soon update this page about that below.)

I have also been informed of a conversation Silvia had with her mom that took place a few weeks after she came to America last summer. A witness to the conversation has told me that Silvia’s mother told her “not to come home, not to return to Moldova” as Silvia would have no future there. Her mother told her firmly “ do whatever you can to stay in America”. Well a few weeks after that conversation, Silvia met me. And she did exactly what her mother told her to do. Unfortunately it comes at my expense. My life gets destroyed, so Silvia can remain in the U.S.

12.09.09

Well it's now December 9th, 2009. Yesterday, December 8th, I finally realized that I was used for a green card by Silvia. After 9 long months of suffering, of being hurt by Silvia, after asking so many questions and having her refuse to answer them......it finally hit me that I truly am a victim of the horrible crime known as "Unilateral Immigration Marriage Fraud".

After talking with so many people over the last 9 months, and hearing all the thoughts and opinions, the consensus is the same all around....Silvia Zlate married me so she could remain in the United States. She never had any real, genuine feelings or thoughts of being with me forever. I was just a temporary solution to her immigration problem. I was, for awhile, her "key to a green card". I was maybe even her saviour. I was able to provide her with the means to be able to remain in America, and not have to return home to Chisinau, Moldova on September 25th, 2008. For Silvia Zlate, I was merely a "disposable / temporary solution". 

I have talked with so many people from Romania, and some others from Moldova, and I have learned a great deal about the mentality of people from poorer, less fortunate countries, and their willingness and ability to do whatever it takes to get out of their country in hopes of having a better life. Women will prostitute themselves, and even PRETEND to love a man they have no intentions of staying with. It's all done for a greater cause, to achieve a greater GOAL.......a life in a better country, like America.

I feel as though I am at peace, at least mostly. 9 months....9 long, long months of wondering why this happened to me, and how such a seemingly beautiful girl could turn in to such a horrific monster and completely destroy me as a man and human being. Silvia has left so many questions unanswered, and she has only hurt her own credibility by refusing to answer questions my mom and I had for her. Silvia Zlate claims to have "really loved me" and the marriage was "real", but her own actions and statements she has made since last March have proven otherwise. Silvia makes herself look nothing less than completely suspicious. 

All the red flags Silvia waved throughout our "marriage", all the suspicious things she did. And also the simplest, most common marital things she REFUSED to do.  All this combined with the fact that she utterly refused to wear her wedding band on her ring finger and the fact she hated listing herself as "married" anywhere including online, all add up to one thing.....FRAUD. Silvia was fraudulent, phony, and disingenuous in her statements about love and commitment to me. She was, in the purest form, disingenuous. The whole thing, from front to back, beginning to end, root to branch.......was nothing more than her ploy to achieve her ultimate goal of Lawful Permanent Residency in the United States. I was merely a tool she USED specifically for the purpose of achieving this goal of hers. I was merely an instrument. And she used me and played me very, very well. 

I am honestly surprised that I am so ok with this final conclusion. But I truly am feeling a sense of peace, and even a bit of relief to finally recognize the ultimateTRUTH.  Yes, there are people out there that will say and do just about anything to achieve a goal, especially if they are from a very poor country and want the "American life". It really doesn't matter to them who they hurt, who they use, and who they destroy. A goal and a "prize" like a Green Card is a very serious thing for someone from a severely disadvantaged nation. Their life and future dependson their decisions and actions against the person they are using to achieve this goal. It matters not who gets hurt in the process, but rather......how long it takes to achieve the "prize". 

Ultimately, I was not the "prize" for Silvia Zlate. The green card was. The green card was always  the ultimate, #1 objective and goal. And Silvia was and still is willing to say and do anything to be able to remain in the United States. I merely "inconvenienced" her by canceling my support and sponsorship of her immigration papers. Silvia would ofcourse find a new way to continue her presence on U.S. soil. She had not achieved her goal yet, and there was no way she was gonna leave, go home to Moldova and quit. No way. With help from other illegal aliens who know how to "work the system" to their advantage, Silvia learned other ways she could possibly continue her life here in America. She has been well coached, and well conditioned. She is now, put simply, a lemming of the russians, programmed by them on how to commit immigration fraud and other federal offenses. And canceling Silvia's immigration papers on March 15th was the best thing I ever did, because it removed any and all responsibility my brother in law and I had for Silvia, as we were her sponsors.

My mind was made up when Silvia left the home on March 5th. If she did not return to the home and marriage within 10 days, I was sending the letter of withdrawal to USCIS by way of overnight express mail. And that's exactly what I did. On the 10th night, I caught Silvia living in a 3 bedroom cottage with 4 illegal aliens, only a few blocks North of our home. On that night, it was done. I sent the withdrawal letter at 8 am the following morning, and never told Silvia. Her gross, disrespectful, hurtful, despicable and disgusting actions against me, my family, and the marriage, were totally and completely UNACCEPTABLE. EVERYONE said the same thing......

"Her actions and what she is doing to you and the marriage are not the actions of a true and genuine wife and companion. There is something wrong with her and she DOES NOT LOVE YOU and probably NEVER DID. Her lies and deception to the man that took her hand in marriage are totally unacceptable."

Everyone was 100% right. Silvia was a lying, cheating, devious, plotting, scheming, cold and calculating foreign national....with a goal of her own. My sincere and honest goal was a nice, decent life and future with Silvia Zlate...to provide for her, to give her a sense of loving family here, to care for her, to be there for her NO MATTER WHAT, to be devoted and committed to her NO MATTER WHAT, to love and honor her, to cherish her very existence, to never leave or abandon her, to support her and stand by her side NO MATTER WHAT. 

However, Silvia's goals and plans were much, much different. She was just willing to give me some of herself, but not her whole self. She gave me some, enough to keep me interested and keep me around. She was just stringing me along. She could stand me just enough to sleep with me, to suck my dick a few times a week, to sleep with me (as long as she wasn't having her period, if she was...she would not touch me and i couldnt touch her for days), she was even able to stand me enough to say "I love you, too" every now and then. But that was it. She never said "I love you" when ending a phone conversation, like most normal spouses do. She wasn't even willing to put a resizer inside her wedding band so it wouldnt slip off her ring finger. She stated "I don't like those, I won't use it". It was too much for her, because she DID NOT LOVE ME ENOUGH TO DO IT. She didnt want people to know she was M A R R I E D. She did not want people to figure out her little secret and assume that....yes, Silvia WAS using me and married an American citizen for the sole purpose of gaining immigration benefits and life inside the United States of America. When she refused to wear her wedding band on the proper finger, in the back of my mind I was saying to myself...."something is wrong here. Fuck it, I won't give her her ring then."

Silvia Zlate liked me enough to live with me, hang out with me, "make love" to me whenever she wanted. But to be devoted, honest and committed to a beautiful life with me? NO FUCKING WAY! I was never Silvia's "ideal husband", and she even told me that not long after moving out of our house. She had plans to leave me at some point before we even got married! Silvia just lost her patience starting in January after she lost her illegal job. She couldn't wait like everyone else. Silvia thinks she is "special", somehow "better" than everyone else, she has that attitude, look and demeanor, and she thought she should've received her immigration papers and legal work authorization before other people. She couldn't wait. She didn't want to wait like EVERYONE has to. She needed to find some lame ass excuse to ditch me and abandon me a little before schedule, so she could go off with the russians and learn a new way to stay in America without me and the marriage. Once Silvia met those pieces of shit russians, it was over with me. She was moved out within 3 weeks after being introduced to those losers at the club down the street from our house. Wonderful lying, deceptive piece of shit Tatiana "Tania" Sancheeva, also from Moldova (but half SHIT russian, half Romanian), introduced Silvia to the russian boys. Silvia liked it because they were all "more like her", because they were from the same area. At that point, I was immediately deemed DISPOSABLE and MEANINGLESS to Silvia. Silvia Zlate threw me away faster than a top fuel dragster. I was then worthless to her, she didn't need me or my mother or the rest of her loving in-law family......she had the group of illegal russians now, they meant more to her because they could show her more illegal options than we could. She was done with me and my family, she had used up for as long as she needed to. We were just trash at that point, and Silvia cut off ALL COMMUNICATION between not only me and my family, but also cut off EVERYONE she ever knew, met or talked with while we were together. EVERYONE was thrown away. Silvia didn't even call my mom while back in our house, or want to see anyone she knew through me, and if she did....she would give them horrible looks...as if they had done something wrong. But in reality, it was Silvia herself who was doing WRONG and committing atrocious, hurtful crimes against a good, big hearted, sensitive man that had married her out of GENUINE love and care to start a new life together. Silvia was the one who had done wrong, not the people she was giving dirty looks to.

 The person I married turned out to be like the criminals you read about on the internet or see on the news....a person who used a U.S. citizen for a green card. I'm the victim you read about. I'm the typical U.S. citizen you hear about that got used, abused and thrown away.....and also got falsely accused of things and also BANKRUPTED in the process of trying to protect myself from a foreign national who absolutely REFUSES to go home and will stop at nothing to finish her scheme and achieve her goal of a GREEN CARD. I'm that poor fool who fell for an immigrant girl, I'm the token fool who fell in love with someone who I thought was an angel and such a positive surprise in my life. I'm the guy who fell so in love with the immigrant girl, that I couldn't let her go....I did not want to lose her, and I was willing to marry her because I believe everything she told me...but it was all untrue and it was all deceptive. Deception and collusion. 

Silvia still continues to prove that she is a user and marriage fraudster. And she still continues to prove Oana right.....Silvia's mom said to Silvia about 2 weeks before she met me......"do whatever you can to stay in America, Silvia. You have no future here in Moldova. Do WHATEVER you can to stay there." And that's exactly what she did....ANYTHING. Including marrying an American guy after only 2 months of knowing him. Who gets married after 2 months???....

1.) Idiots, dopes and crazy drunk people.

2.) A man or woman who is lied to and/or coerced into entering a seemingly bonafide marriage.

3.) Immigrants who will do anything to get a green card.

It's really that simple. I think we can all figure out that my "wife" married me for other reasons besides spending a lifetime with me. Let's be serious, Silvia Zlate had absolutely no intentions of spending a lifetime with Jonathan Merrill. Silvia was willing to be with me during the process of getting her green card. But once the immigration interviews were over, the marriage was accepted by USCIS as "legitimate and bonafide" and Silvia finally received her 2-year conditional green card.......Silvia Zlate was gonna be out the fuckin' door and out of the marriage.

It just so happens that I was fortunate enough to recognize the serious warning signs and red flags of marriage fraud earlier than expected. I was lucky enough to become genuinely suspicious of Silvia starting in January. That's when I purposely became increasingly intolerant and indifferent towards Silvia in order to see how she would react. Would she react as a genuine, sincere wife? Or, as a lying deceptive snake? Well, ultimately it would turn out she was the latter, not the former. She fell right in to the "Merrill Trap". I would sometimes ignore her or falsely act upset with her in order to see her reaction. In late January, I also started asking her more questions about who she was talking to on the internet and what she was doing. I needed to gauge her reaction to my questions and inquiries....I needed to see how she would react. And she reacted SUSPICIOUSLY....she reacted just like a phony/fraudster would. She didn't react like an honest person, she reacted like a nervous criminal about to be caught. She reacted like a CRIMINAL, like a devious conning plotter, like a sociopath. 

Profile of a SOCIOPATH, and the similarities to the woman I married...

• Glibness and Superficial Charm
• Manipulative and Conning 
• They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They may dominate and humiliate their victims.
• Grandiose Sense of Self 
• Feels entitled to certain things as "their right." Always insists on control, even simple things like the radio station.
• Pathological Lying 
• Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and even able to pass lie detector tests.
• Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt 
• A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way. GREEN CARD!
• Shallow Emotions 
• When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises.
• Incapacity for Love
• Need for Stimulation 
• Living on the edge. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments are normal.
• Callousness/Lack of Empathy 
• Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others' feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them.
• Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature 
• Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others. Throw a whole loving in-law away!
• Early plans / expectations / dreams to achieve big goals
• Usually has a history of behavioral difficulties and a consistent inability to get along with most others, often thought of as "uppity" or "stuck up" by others, yet "gets by" by conning others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc. Stealin from Marshall's and TJ Maxx for sure!
• Irresponsibility/Unreliability 
• Not concerned about wrecking others' lives or families. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed or acts/reactions they caused. OH MY GOD!!! That's Silvia exactly!!!!
• Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity 
• Promiscuity, and sexual acting out of all sorts. Oh my god, giving her phone number out to dudes to she meets at clubs the first time she meets them. Getting caught in a bed with another man while being a married woman.
• Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle 
• Tends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises for the future, and exploits others effectively. OH MY GOD!!!! ZLT-VIP!!!
• Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility 
• Changes their image and/or personality as needed to avoid prosecution or achieve goals. Changes life story readily. HOLY SHIT!!! Zlate for a green card!!!
• Contemptuous of those who seek to understand them (ZLATE!)
• Does not perceive that anything is wrong with them  (ZLATE!)(ZLATE!)(ZLATE!)
• Authoritarian (ZLATE!)(ZLATE!)(ZLATE!)
• Secretive (ZLATE!)(ZLATE!)(ZLATE!)(ZLATE!)(ZLATE!)(ZLATE!)
• Paranoid (ZLATE!)
• Only rarely in difficulty with the law, but seeks out situations where their tyrannical behavior will be tolerated, condoned, or admired (ZLATE!)
• Conventional appearance  (ZLATE!)
• Goal of enslavement of their victim(s)  (ZLATE!)
• Exercises despotic control over every aspect of the victim's life  (ZLATE!)(ZLATE!)(ZLATE!)(ZLATE!)(ZLATE!)(ZLATE!)
• Has an emotional need to justify their crimes and therefore needs their victim's affirmation (respect, gratitude and love)   (ZLATE!)(ZLATE!)
• Ultimate goal is the creation of a willing victim  (ZLATE!)
• Incapable of real human attachment to another
• Unable to feel remorse or guilt  (ZLATE!)
• Extreme narcissism and grandiose  (ZLATE!)(ZLATE!)(ZLATE!)

As you can see......I was harshly used and abused by a foreign national who had goals other than lifelong commitment in marriage to me. I have accepted the truth and reality of my situation. Yes, I was used by Silvia Zlate, whether whole or in part,  and there is nothing I can ever do to change that. I made a mistake. I loved someone who did not love me in return. I cared for someone who planned to leave me at some point. Luckily, with help from people in similar situations and with help from USCIS and ICE, I was able to determine that the immigrant woman that I had married was indeed a user, by her very own actions against me and the "marriage", I was able to determine that I was in fact being used and abused for a green card, and I canceled Silvia's immigration paperwork. I canceled within 2 weeks of her leaving the marital home. It was done. She was done. I was done with her and her fraud against me. But she still remains in this country, doing everything she can to hurt me, destroy me and ruin my life. She is also pulling at strings, and saying and doing everything she can to remain in America. Good luck. I forgive you, and I hope you somehow find a way to have a good life. I am a good person, and Silvia Zlate never deserved such a loyal, devoted and committed man. I would have died for my wife. I would have given my life for the woman that I though Silvia was. But she was not that person, she was only acting. I was in love with a fictional character. I was deeply in love with a person who did not exist. The real Silvia Zlate is the girl who lies, steals from stores, uses people, tells the police to throw me in jail and ruin my life. The real Silvia Zlate is the person her roommates at Atlantic in the Summer of 2008 could not stand. Nobody liked her. The real Silvia is the person who gets blamed for stealing Cliffy's salad. The real Silvia is a devious, evil, cold and calculating snake, willing to do anything and hurt anyone on the path to her green card. I did not marry that person. I married a person who was falsely represented to me. I fell in love with and married a wonderful, kind, sweet, loyal, caring, beautiful, non-controlling, intelligent, unique, understanding, loving, angel of a girl. So I thought. But soon after I actually gave her marriage, she slowly but surely started to turn in to the real Silvia Zlate. She became CONTROLLING, she wanted control over EVERYTHING...the music we listened to, the tv shows we watched, the movies we watched, the food we bought or ate, the places we went. The real Silvia Zlate is DOMINEERING and TYRANNICAL. DECEPTIVE and SECRETIVE. SLY and CUNNING. She also became even more extremely SECRETIVE as time went on, and disgustingly so. After a few months, it was so obvious. She just made it so obvious that she was talking to someone else and lying to me about it. She was hurtful, saying horrible, horrendous and untrue things to me. A disgusting person. And she turned me into a monster, similar to herself. After one full month of her HORRIBLE, EXTREME mental and emotional abuse that she inflicted on me, I reacted like she would...like a monster. The evil monster had turned ME in to an evil monster. But never again. That will never happen again. I will let someone hurt me so badly, that I become a bad person like them. I will never make my mother so disappointed in me. I will never let someone hurt me so terribly. Never again. Silvia Zlate damaged and destroyed me beyong all comprehension. She put me down to the extreme BOTTOM. Now the only place for me to go is back up. I have been at the BOTTOM, and I wish it on NOBODY.

Oana said it best...."It's not you. It wasn't you, Jon. No matter how perfect you were to Silvia, she was going to leave you at some point anyway."

Ain't that the truth.....?

It took me over 9 months.......9 horrible, painful, life-altering months......but the truth is finally embedded in my mind, and it is acceptable now. I am at peace Silvia Zlate, and you can never hurt me or turn me into a monster ever again. Karma and nature will return to you what you have done to me and my mother and my family. Nature will correct you....somewhere, sometime.....it will all come back to you for the evil lies, abuse, hurt and deception you unleashed on me during this marriage. 

I can sleep now, and I rest assured, that nature will return to Silvia all that she has been done to me and my mother...

If Silvia Zlate really loved me and the marriage was real, then why doesn't she act like it? Why does she make herself look like a fake, phony and a fraud? If you were innocent, and you really loved your spouse, wouldn't try to prove that? Well, not Silvia Zlate.......she does the exact opposite. She makes herself look so guilty of never loving me and using me for a green card. Make no mistake, after destroying me and my life, she signed a contract offering me money and sex to pretend to be her "husband" at immigration interviews. I STILL have the contract....

EDIT: 01/28/10

Silvia Zlate is beyond a shadow of a doubt, a lying deceptive fraud. I have received numerous emails and messages from those who know her best. Folks from Chisinau, Moldova who grew up with and know Silvia have contacted me to tell me about her, and have made me aware that Silvia continued to have contact with her "ex-boyfriend" from Moldova, even after we were married here in the U.S. Her boyfriends friends have told me that they repeatedly told him that Silvia had a found someone in America, had married him, and she was not returning home to Moldova. Her boyfriend refused this idea, and Silvia continued to string along for months, lying to him and telling him "I am not married, don't listen to your stupid friends." Silvia has destroyed not only me, but also the man from Moldova who was in love with her. 

We were both disposed of so Silvia Zlate could achieve her ultimate goal of a better life here in the United States of America. Silvia Zlate should NOT be trusted. Silvia will say AND do anything in order to protect her presence here in America. She will lie, connive, deceive and MANIPULATE anyone and any situation she may find herself in. 

I have also been made aware of Silvia's desire to not return home to Moldova when she departed for the United States in June 2008. Silvia's boyfriend was not granted a Visa at the embassy, so she stated to him that "it was over" because she was not returning home. Her plan, all along, was to remain in the United States, by any means possible.

This coincides with witness statements to Silvia's conversation with her mom sometime in July 2008. Silvia's roommates overheard her talking with her mom, and her mom telling her to "stay in America, it's best" and to "find someone" in order to stay here. Silvia did just that. She listened well to her mom, and she would find me within the next few weeks. From there, this horrible and unfortunate story began.

In the end, Silvia Zlate is nothing more than a FRAUD, one who has manipulated many people, as well as the U.S. Immigration system in order to achieve her ultimate goal. Silvia still remains in the United States, and her unwillingness to do the right thing and return home to Moldova speaks volumes about her EVIL character and demeanor. It also sheds a lot of light on Silvia's monumental selfishness, and her ability to adapt and manipulate people for the sole purpose of achieving her goal. A green card is and always was Silvia's most heartfelt desire. It certainly was not a marriage and life here in America with me.

Not only does the evidence I have and the witness statements to Silvia's character prove Silvia's FRAUD, Silvia's own actions help to prove her deception and collusion. Silvia Zlate wants nothing except to be allowed to remain in United States, and she will say and do anything to achieve that. 

She will even lie and claim to love, and sleep with you in order reach her main objective in life. She is a form of prostitute, a woman willing to barter her body in return for lawful permanent residency in the United States.

A despicable human being, a deceitful sociopath, the devil in human form, a "skinflint", a "screw"....these are all things used by people from Moldova and Chisinau to describe Silvia Zlate. Selfish, frustrated and envious. Those are also things used by the same folks who know her to describe Silvia. 

The fact will always remain that I have the evidence to prove Silvia Zlate's conspiracy and federal immigration crimes. I have the marriage fraud contract SHE signed, offering me money and sex in return for lying at the immigration interview and masquerading as her "husband". Silvia is nothing more than a con-artist, a professional fraud with goals.

Also ironic, is that Silvia actually lied again (one of many NUMEROUS lies and deceptions) and claimed she "threw away" the marriage contract she signed. Contrary to that statement, Silvia did not throw it away, as she should have. She foolishly left it in her manila folder that held her immigration documents and applications. I would ultimately find the contract and take it for evidence. Silvia had made the gravest mistake of all by not doing as she had stated, thrown away the marriage fraud contract. 

Signatures and evidence is hard to discredit. The evidence doesn't lie, and neither do Silvia Zlate's own actions.

FRAUD.

EDIT: June 18th, 2010

I have learned so much more about Silvia Zlate and all the things she was doing behind my back. Since last January, I have learned SO MUCH! And I still am always the first to take responsibility for marrying a foreign national whom I only knew for 2 months. I know, I know.....I was a fool for her love. I took a risk, because I loved her. I took a gamble, and I lost. I just wish so much every second of my life that nobody got hurt. I just wish nobody got hurt. I've come to understand that the person I married is indeed a very cold and calculating sociopath. She would speak of her "boyfriend" at university, then be seen kissing another boy. Such awful lies and indiscretions.

I was hurt by her, too. So I know what it's like to feel THE WRATH of Silvia Zlate. It's simply amazing what some of us are willing to do for love...I would have given my own life for Silvia, if it meant her being safe. Wouldn't that have been ironic?...........I marry a foreigner from Chisinau, Moldova, then soon after marriage I push her out of the way of a moving truck and I am killed instantly.........and all along, she never REALLY loved me at all.....

*** I should state my reasons for exposing Silvia and her horrible fraud against me actually stem from the fact that Silvia herself has chosen to remain extremely vengeful against me by refusing to communicate with me and explain the truths of her desires and reasons for entering in to a marriage with me. My family and I are left feeling that Silvia believes she is exacting her revenge on me and hurting me by not telling me the TRUTH about her feelings for me, or, the lack thereof. She loved me, she loved me not, ya know? So until the day comes when Silvia Zlate truly finds some light from God and she is shown how to truly forgive and be honest to a man who loved her deeply and took her hand in marriage, I will continue my fight against Immigration Marriage Fraud. I will continue to expose those who defraud innocent people. If I can prevent one person from experiencing the horrors I did at the hands of Silvia Zlate, I will be content. And some very great people, including the church, have helped me to understand forgiveness. I have honestly forgiven Silvia for everything she did to me, everything right down to the last lie. I pity Silvia, I truly pity her for having to resort to such evil in order to accomplish her goals. I would have helped her anyway, even if she didn't love me, if only she had been honest with me from the moment on March 5th, 2009 when she said she was leaving me. But she was not honest, ever, from that point on. 

It has been made CLEAR to Silvia on many occasions that my only request from her was to just be told the truth, and I would remove any and all references to her and our "marriage". But Silvia's tremendous undying unselfishness not only keeps her in America and away from her family, it also prevents her from being the person she claimed to be, an honest, farm-raised, wholesome Orthodox Christian girl from Chisinau, Moldova. Well, I want the truth AND the recipe to her wonderful homemade soup!!! HAHA ***