He finally left me!

[asaraireh]

Well, my husband finally left me. He was leaving me 5 months after he received his green card but then he got scared and didn't do it. The reason was he said he loved me (it could be possible) but I highly doubt it. So he waited around another 7 months to finally do it. His reasoning's were: I only want to be responsible for myself. Right after he got the green card, he wanted my name removed from everything that had his name on it and vice versa. I found that to be strange. He was willing to put his name on everything while waiting for the card, now after the card, it changed. He never wanted to share his money with me in a checking or savings account. I opened a savings account with Charter One Bank but he never wanted to give me any money to match mine and save money with me for our future together. He hid his money in his coat pocket in the closet and sent thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars to Jordan. He privately has bank accounts in Jordan and he refused to have me a part of any of his family. I found out he lied in his original interview in Amman, Jordan stating to the Immigration Officer that I met his Mom and I never met his mom or any of his family in Karak, Jordan. The photo we had of his Aunt is what he told the officer was his mom. He told me all of this. Back in November, 2009 he came home with 10,000.00 in cash and was scared as he wanted to send it to Jordan but the lady at the currency exchange asked for his social security number I guess to report him. He was afraid he'd get caught and I think this is why he stayed with me longer as he told me he wanted my help if anything went wrong and he got reported. He didn't pay much rent and I fought with him on this many times. He literally took advantage of me financially. He was only working here to send money home to Jordan and to care for his family. I mentioned this to him and he said no. But it's the truth. He married me to legally gain access to the USA to financially take care of Jordan. He never helped me with my daughter, Jessica. Never participated with anything with her or financially helped with her. When he met me online and I went to his country to meet him, he literally forced me to marry him saying this was the only way to be together. I found out later, I could have filed just the fiance visa and he could have come here for 90 days and then marry within that time frame. He has been sending money in someone elses name besides his name as he found out I could trace his money sent through Western Union back in 2007. In 2007 he admitted that he married me for the green card and then fell in love with me. It was hard for me to end this as I was so in love with him. I found out the women he chatted with online that were chatting with him at the time I came to Jordan to meet him. All the gifts he sent me, he sent to the other women. Exactly the same. One of the girls mentioned that she got the same gifts as I did. He admitted to this as he was looking any way he could to get out of his country. I'm not even sure if he's married in Jordan!!!! This man's life is a complete secret. Over the past 4 years he's been here, I've never met any of his friends. He would not take me out to meet them at the bars or houses he went to. I can not prove he cheated on me and it's possible he didn't. His interest was only to make the money and send it back home. My husband was in investigation for almost 4 years. Since April, 2006, he's been in investigation with USCIS or FBI name check, whatever you want to call it. We had 2 interviews. The first one was quick as he was still being investigated. Very few questions were asked. The second interview came a year later, October, 2008. Again, the interviewer just asked him questions pertaining to his job and about his car, took copies of our photos and bills we had together. He stayed in investigation until April 2009. Then they issued him the card. I feel cheated regarding the interview. Nothing was asked about our marriage at all. My husband started pressuring me in February of 2009 regarding why he hadn't gotten the green card and that he had a friend who knew someone in the Chicago office and wanted his alien number, etc. One month later they approved his card. There is probably so much more I could type here but I am really saddened by all of this. He just packed his suitcases while I was gone at work, I came home (which is something I don't always do) to let the dogs out as I work for myself in the Pet Care Business walking dogs, pet sitting, etc. That's when I found his bags packed. I had to go back to work and asked him to wait for me so we could talk but my daughter came home and saw him throw his suitcase in the trunk of his car. He came back as I had his passport, and that's what he came back for. I do not know the address he is staying but do know where he works which is the same place he's been working since he came here. When he arrived from Jordan, he was different than the man I knew in Jordan and on the phone/on the internet. I know many of his friends from Jordan have arrived in the USA married to US Citizens and I know it's for the green card. One is in Canada also. I have all the phone numbers he's called and the text messages from women on his cell. He has since changed his cell over to another company and I released the number to him. So his cell number is still the same but I'm sure he has another one also. I have one of his checking accounts and savings account where he has almost $15,000. When he was leaving back in November, 2009 he laid 10,000 dollars on the table and said I could have it all as he was so afraid he was going to be caught for smuggling out so much money at one time. I then said since you are leaving me I need some money and I took 4, 000.00. I still have it in the bank but that's almost all I have to live on. He then decided to stay and asked me for the money back because he was staying and not leaving me. I wouldn't give it back to me. Then he said two weeks after, I might as go now since you are not going to give me back my money and that's what I gave to you if I were leaving. His only reason for leaving me is that he only wants to be responsible for himself financially and everything else he wants to do for himself. He just completely abandoned me. I've only seen him two times since he left two and half weeks ago. He says he wants to stay friends and is worried about me. He also said he wouldn't file the divorce. Again, there is probably more to tell but right now I think I've taken enough of your time. Also, all my friends are witnesses to his actions with me for the past 4 years. I remember he was applying for a job before his interview for the K3 visa in Jordan. He asked me then if I thought he'd get the green card. I said I don't know. I asked him many times if I could come to live there with him and he said that he didn't have money to support me and that I wouldn't like it there. He's never once offered me a place to stay there as a married spouse except when I travelled to see him in the beginning. He said it was his apartment but I believe he rented it from his brother or someone else and found out later, he lived with his sister in Amman, Jordan. He hid all his emails from me and never let me talk to his family when he came here.
Ok, sorry to take all your time up here. I don't have a lot of money but I need help as to what to do. I could take him to court in chicago and try to get alimony from him. I might even be able to annul the marriage but if they aren't going to deport him, I'd lose instead of gaining some alimony. My daughter is also a witness to his negligence and cold nature in my marriage. She feels he was just using me.

[admin]

Report, report, report, and then gather ALL of your EVIDENCE. And I mean EVERYTHING!!! This is a case of TOTAL FRAUD. Not sharing a checking account with your SPOUSE? Come on, it's clear like glass.....I can see right through! My immigrant "wife" did the SAME thing. You can sit around wondering if it were "real", or you can protect yourself. I would concentrate on the latter...

It is what it is...and it was what it WAS. If it was REAL to you, then thats all that really matters. Rid your life of the SEVERE, EXTREME and HORRIBLE ABUSE! You can start by compiling your evidence and calling around for help. I would call USCIS first, then I.C.E. Then contact your local County or State agency for help defending yourself.

[afielk]

ICE has arrested and prosecuted people for marriage fraud. One man even has a petition pending to get his citizenship revoked.

During the course of the investigation, it was discovered that Adeneye's own marriage to the informant from 2002 through 2007 was fraudulent and that Adeneye had never lived with his purported spouse. Documents submitted to U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services, in support of Adeneye's application for U.S. citizenship and sworn to by Adeneye, falsely claimed he had been married to and living with the same U.S. citizen spouse for the previous three years.

Adeneye had been released on bond which was immediately revoked following the return of the jury's verdict on May 7. He will remain in custody pending his sentencing hearing, which is scheduled in August. He faces up to 10 years imprisonment and a fine up to $250,000. Prosecutors will also file a motion with the court requesting that Adeneye's U.S. citizenship be revoked.