Green card warning signs with U-visa in mind

[evandale]

On or about June 2008 Roseli and I started communication via eHarmony and email.

Late June early July 2008 I received a phone from Roseli, she called me to ask me what did I mean when I said I want a passionate woman? After several phone calls she informed me that she was visiting Paris and London and asked me if I could join her.

Our first face to face meeting was in Paris late July 2008 - she was there for few days prior to going to London to attend an english class. One day while seeking a place to each lunch had a mild anxiety attack- she became very angry and accused me of looking at another woman's body. I became very quit for a few minutes and over came the event to avoid a scene, I though maybe because she was nervous. The same day she asked me in I could fly to London with her and I gladly said yes. My sojourn in London only lasted a few days, then I returned to USA to prepare for my new position in Atlanta.

August 8 2008 received flowers from Roseli - they were sent to wrong Siemens office however I did get a pictures of the arrangement it was beautiful.

November 2008 Roseli joined me in Atlanta to discuss marriage - before I knew it we were booking a flight and hotel in Las Vegas, NV. While in Vegas, I questioned rather or not we were doing the right thing; she became depressed We were married on November 22, 2008.

In May of 2009 Roseli joined in in New Jersey where I was installing equipment - she had started experiencing minor panic attacks - shortness of breath and trembling. She had explained that she would be OK - she gave no details of what was happening; I was concerned so I thought it would be a good idea to invested in music recording hardware and software to help her pass the time while I was at work. The panic attacks became less

September 2009, Roseli was in the process of selling our home in Brazil. Each night or so we chatted via Skype for hours sometime 4-6 hours. The process became very stressful for her; she began having major panic attack which resulted in her going to the hospital for medical attention and test - the prognosis was she required medication to control the attack. She informed that her body is very sensitive and she can only take homeopathic medicine. The attacks became so frequent I had to sleep many nights with my headphones close to my ear so I could hear her in case of an emergency. There was times when I talked through the attacks or until one of her daughter arrived. For her own safety she requested her nine-teen (19)year old son move in with her until December.

The attacks continued through the month of October, I became very concerned about her health and started asking more questions about her medical condition. Finally she I informed me that years ago she witness a murder at the airport. She went on to say the incident dramatized her to the point where she had to seek professional treatment. And she believes that stress triggers these attacks of panic and anxiety.

Late November, 2009 I visited at Roseli's request to help her bring her bags and to see her parents. During my visit I gave Roseli a surprise retirement party. December 2009. I planned it one (1) month in advance. All of her family and friends were invited.

Arrived in Atlanta December 5, 2009 slept for a few hours, then visited several areas of Atlanta looking for homes - without agent. December 6 - Shopped for homes with agent , entire day of in and out of many houses Roseli thought the property in Evans Farms was perfect, I sign contract to purchase. December 7 - Ernest money for property was sent to Crown Builders Mid December - Roseli and I opened a joint account at Bank of America. There was a debt that the bank required us to payoff - Roseli and discussed the day before that we would pay this form the joint account. I transferred the money to my personal account to use by debt card to pay. She proclaimed it was her money and I had no right to transfer the money to pay the debt. She starting trembling as if she was going to have an attack. I said OK f**k the money, it not worth it.We agreed we would do this and now you are a big deal of this. I stated Roseli maybe this whole thing is too much for us. Lets wait and buy the house. Siemens is only paying 4k lets wait. She replied, " no CM I want the house. During the approval and closing process lots of documents were required from the both of us. The stress was too much for Roseli, suddenly she began having major panic attacks two which required medical assistance and one result in her being admitted to the hospital for observation. I was concerned and suggested that we don't buy the home because of all the stress - this made matters worse. To avoid conflict we continued with the process of getting all the documents and information to the bank. She was advised to seek professional help to assist with her medical condition. I asked a colleague and a friend of hers from Brazil which lives in Cumming, GA (Marcelo Calsan and his wife) assist Roseli while I was on company business trips.

January 2010 - Roseli continued to have panic attacks, her homeopathic medicine was being taken every 2-3 hours. Closed on home January 29, 2010 - moved into new home January 30, 2010. The weather was close to freezing so we shopped for heaters to heat the home until gas was restored to home - we visited several stores and purchased several heater both fuel oil and electric. She told me due to her medical condition it was not safe for her to be without heat. I called the gas company to plea for a immediate connection of gas services; they declined and said we need a note from her doctor stating her medical condition. We called her doctor to get this document, upon arriving at the office it was closed. We also visited the emergency room where she was admitted a week before, they told us her doctor must write the note. Concern for her health and safety I added added a key-fob to ADT services so in the event that she has a panic attack while I was away on business she could get immediate help if required.

February, 2010 - Started having mild attack in the morning. Often I had to make juice or bring to her fruit due to the fact she did not have the energy to go downstairs herself. many mornings I made sure she was downstairs prior to me going to work. Often i missed meetings and reschedule other to attend Roseli. If I recall on about this time she started seeing a psycho-therapist for treatment. She constantly complained that she was a nobody without her resident visa and that I promised I would do it. I informed her that once we obtain her ITIN I can get started, however there are a few tax issues that must be addresses first. Each time she experienced a minor panic attack, she said it was because she was a nobody here in USA and she did not have a job. Other triggers would be if I asked about beta Finace ( DirectBuy) she wanted have a membership - at the time she did not have her ITIN so I had to put it in both names, but with my SSN. To date she has not paid a single monthly payment. February 7 - Departing for New Jersey, Roseli and had dinner at the airport (she loved to share her food even the other person does not want it) she placed corn bread on plate of food, I politely put it on her tray, her reaction was very aggressive; she threw the corn bread at me - not hitting me but landing in my plate. I stopped eating the food. To avoid any actions to trigger a panic attack I told her I must go to the gate.

Mid March 2010 - Roseli started feeling like I was not telling her nice words and speaking to her in a kind way, we discussed it and I felt I could really help her through what emotional state she was experiencing. I loaded an Application on my phone to tally how many times per day and week I said something nice. I was happy with the results I was up to 20 per day. At the beginning our marriage Roseli and I agreed that she would keep receipts and organized all the expenditures and control the budget. When I started asking question about the process she became very emotional, so I stop asking. I did not want to trigger any unwanted behavior.

April 2010 - Each day I proceeded with caution not to say or do anything that may trigger panic attack . I found myself saying OK, or agreeing to everything just to avoid conflict. Everyday I would ask myself why do I love her and every day its the same answer, " she is the woman of my dreams". We were invited to a dinner party at Marcelo's home; after dinner the couples were engaged in open discussion about people of northern Brazil, and she a made derogatory comment about people with dark skin. I called her to the side and told her that those comments were very offensive and even more coming from by wife. she replied, not in Brazil. She also said she would not do it again. April 18 I departed for New jersey for business. April 24 returned to Atlanta. Roseli and I ate dinner at airport; she was departing for Brasilia, DF Brazil to complete her yearly tax returns. April 25 I departed for Brazil to execute a scope of work in Macea, RJ.


May 2010 was a very interesting month. May 6, I meet Roseli at the airport in Rio De Janeiro. May 7, 2010, Roseli, Jason (colleague) and I was walking and having a casual conversation; suddenly cup of cold water was thrown in my face. I asked why did you do that, she said you know why. I ask her to explain her actions and she said "you know why". "what were you looking at" she asked? I replied, "nothing". Later that day I asked her Roseli why did she throw the water in my face, it was not funny nor called for, and it was very embarrassing. She replied, "it was a joke cant I joke in front of your colleague". May 8, 2010 evening at Rio De Janeiro airport, I was discussing the details of lessons learned for a project we had just completed with a colleague, Roseli walked up to us and rudely interrupted, and said "I am his wife, Martin introduce us", "OK, please wait until we are finish", she insisted by saying "I am your wife and I you need introduce me". She introduced her self, I was so embarrassed by her actions I insisted that we finished at the conversation at the office, then I walked away. May 9 - we arrived in Atlanta. May 12, we received her ITIN, I recommend that she contact Bank of America to give them the information they have been requesting since January. On or about May 14 she wanted to purchase a TV, at the checkout counter (Fry's) her ATM card was declined, she was instruction to call BOA. While on the phone with Bank of America they requested SSN or ITIN, because she never gave them the number it took about twenty (20) minutes to complete the purchase. An action that supposed to event and painless turned bad - everything was my fault. She also added that if she had her resident papers this would have never happened. And she demanded that I fulfill that commitment. May 23, 2010 she asked if I was planning to take her with me to Darling SC during my business trip. I replied no, because we need to work on our relationship and I did not feel comfortable taking you on this trip. She replied angry stating that I was trying to control her, and I was a nobody until she came into my life, and it was because of her I had a status in Atlanta, that I was a coward and all I wanted was her money. She emphasized that I need to fulfill the commitment as a husband by getting her residence visa. She went on to say everyone needs to know that I am your wife; I don't have a job, nor my resident visa I am a nobody here. I replied by telling her I think we need to concentrate and work on our relationship first. She replied "f***k you". I proceeded to the bedroom and removed most of my belonging and took to them to the guest bedroom where I slept that night. May 25 I departed for Lakeland, FL and returned to Atlanta the evening of May 26. To avoid any conflict, I rented a car at the airport and drove five (5) hours to Darling SC. May 28, I returned to Atlanta, hoping that the anxiety has passed. I don't remember saying when arrived nor the weekend, my goal was to avoid her until the anxiety passed.

June 3, 2009 Roseli sent me an email apologizing for trying to provoke me, and that she wanted me to hurt and show me that she does not care. June 5, all I remember is she accusing me of having an affair with a female colleagues. I replied let's admit it, you and I made a mistake. She replied you still have the responsibility to get my resident visa. She also added all you wanted was my money. I replied all I want is peace, you can have the house. Ok, I will get the contract transferred to my name, but you will get my resident visa, you are my husband and you must do it. I replied you are beautiful smart there are many men that would marry you. She replied, ' f**k you". June 7 departed for Canada on business. June 8 sent divorce partition to Roseli to review and comment. No response nor answered my phone calls. May 11 late evening, returned to Atlanta, no conversation with Roseli. May 12, asked Roseli have she had an opportunity to review document, her response was no. Left for office mid morning to publish reports for business meeting, returned to home. Knocked on master bedroom door. In a kind and low voice asked Roseli did she have any comment prior to me taking it to the courthouse. She replied yes, that you will complete the paper work for visa. June 13 - I could not sleep, all night I thought maybe there is a chance we could salvage what we have left. June 14, called behavior service at Cigna and requested marriage counseling. That night I passed number under the door and wrote these words, I called today for help, maybe you should too. The room I was in only has one vent, and it was very hot. I returned to the master bedroom door and knocked gently. the sound of water indicated she was taking shower, so I open the door and lowered the T-stat. Since she arrived late I to make sure she was OK, went to the bathroom door and asker her was he ok, she shouted leave me alone. The alarm sounded I could not understand why, so I reset it. it sounded again so I reset to checked downstairs. I checked all the windows and doors. I checked the control box and checked the battery wiring. I return to the guest bedroom. Minutes later the was a knock at the door, I walked downstairs and it was the Forsyth Sheriff Officer. Again I thought maybe with professional help we may get through this if we don't have other distraction. I was happy with the results, and I was looking forward to sitting down and speaking with Roseli. When I arrived home I was in the process of preparing for a useful dialog when I heard a knock at the door. It was Forsyth County Sheriff with a TRO.

She dropped charges, however I am without home until the divorce is final. Currently she has a immigration lawyer that is unaware of the present situation. The really feel screwed.

[admin]

This another instance of what I refer to NOW as "Total Fraud".

Ok, so you traveled across the globe, met a woman, and took a risk. Fine. But now it's time to PROTECT YOURSELF. Your RISK did not pay off. Marrying someone from another land, whom you don't KNOW, and doing it rather quickly is nothing but a recipe for disaster. it's age old, happens TIME AND TIME AGAIN. And admitting your RISK to yourself will be the beginning of your healing process.

You really need to compile your evidence folders, etc and start gearing up for war. It's time.